Palliative care is comfort care given to a patient with an illness that cannot be cured. It is normal for someone who is sick to feel uneasy, restless, afraid, or anxious. Certain thoughts, pain, or trouble breathing may trigger these feelings. Comfort care helps patients cope with these feelings.
What you might feel
You might feel:
- That things are not right
- Unable to pay attention, focus, or concentrate
- Loss of control
Your body may express what you are feeling with:
- Trouble relaxing
- Trouble getting comfortable
- Needing to move for no reason
- Fast breathing
- Fast heartbeat
- Muscle twitches
- Trouble sleeping
- Bad dreams or nightmares
- Extreme restlessness (called agitation)
What you can do
Think about what worked in the past. What helps when you feel anxious? What happened when this feeling started? Can you do something about that? Did it start with a pain, and you can take pain medicine?
Use the energy of the feeling to do something, such as:
- Write down what you are feeling and thinking.
- Talk to someone.
To help you relax:
- Breathe slowly and deeply for a few minutes.
- Listen to music that calms you.
- Slowly count backward from 100 to 0.
- Do yoga, qigong, or tai chi.
- Have someone massage your hands, feet, arms, or back.
- Pet a cat or dog.
- Ask someone to read to you.
To prevent feeling anxious:
- When you need to rest, tell visitors to come another time.
- Take your medicine as it was prescribed.
- Do not drink alcohol.
- Do not have drinks with caffeine.
Many people find they can prevent or manage these feelings if they can talk to someone they trust.
- Talk to a friend or loved one who is willing to listen.
- When you see your doctor or nurse, talk about your fears.
- If you have worries about money or other issues, or just want to talk about your feelings, ask to see a social worker.
Your doctor can give you medicine to help with these feelings. Do not be afraid to use it the way it is prescribed. If you have questions or concerns about the medicine, ask your doctor or pharmacist.
When to call the doctor
Call your doctor when you have:
- Feelings that may be causing your anxiety (such as fear of dying or worrying about money)
- Concerns about your illness
- Problems with family or friend relationships
- Spiritual concerns
- Signs and symptoms that your anxiety is changing or getting worse
LeGrand SB. Anxiety. In: Walsh D, Caraceni AT, Fainsinger R, et al., eds. Palliative Medicine. 1st ed. Philadelphia, PA: Elsevier Saunders; 2008:chap 151.
Update Date 5/7/2014
Updated by: Todd Gersten, MD, Hematology/Oncology, Florida Cancer Specialists & Research Institute, Wellington, FL. Review provided by VeriMed Healthcare Network. Also reviewed by David Zieve, MD, MHA, Isla Ogilvie, PhD, and the A.D.A.M. Editorial team.